UK Christian Fellowship and Dating

Picture the scene: you’ve had an excellent first date with someone, you really like them, and you want to meet them again - but you are complete opposites in one area. One of you is an introvert and the other is an extrovert. We’ve all heard the term ‘opposites attract’ when it comes to dating – how can it work when you might be different in this area? What should you consider when thinking about extrovert / introvert dating?

Deciding how to spend your first date or a long awaited afternoon together can be tricky, but we're here to help! Here's the final part of our A-Z of of tried and tested, real life Christian Connection couples’ dating ideas. From T to Z, #MetOnCC couples share the activities that helped them get to know each other. What would you add to the list of #MetOnCC date ideas? 

When you start looking for a partner online, it’s easy to focus on the earliest stages of connecting: do you like each other’s pictures? Do your locations and other preferences match up and, of course, do they like you in return? But what about once those early checkpoints are all ticked off? To form a meaningful, lasting connection you’re going to want to really get to know each other, and when you’ve started out as strangers, sometimes it’s hard to know where or how to begin. The good news is that there are lots of small, simple ways to connect right from the start and bring out the best in your date.

First dates are about first impressions and it’s normal to feel nervous when meeting someone for the first time. We might feel that we have to perform or sell ourselves in some way. But once we’re over this initial hurdle and have agreed to meet again, how do we have a great second date? Here are six tips to set you up for a fruitful second encounter, starting with that crucial period in between dates.

Imagine you’re on a first date with someone you’ve been messaging on Christian Connection. You’re both looking your best, confidence growing, and the chat is flowing, when suddenly your glass of water is knocked over. Is it a disaster, or a memorable moment you’ll both laugh about later? When online dating feels too serious or intense, every little mishap can seem like a setback. But taking a lighter approach to those moments can turn them into opportunities to connect. Studies have shown that a sense of humour is one of the top qualities that online daters are looking for, and moments like these can be a great chance to let yours shine. So how can dating with humour help you?

Meeting someone new for the first time - or even second or third time - can be fun, exciting and nerve-racking. Wouldn't it be helpful to know some tried-and-tested date ideas that have worked for others? We can help! Couples who first found each other on Christian Connection have shared so many great #MetOnCC date ideas, we’ve created an A-Z blog series to share them. Here are a selection of some fun dates from M to S to inspire your next meet up. From the relaxed to the daring, there should be something different to try.

Asking someone about their faith is a great way to get to know them, and it also allows you to assess if this is someone that you could be compatible with. When you first start seeing someone, you might be interested to know a bit about their faith, but it can be tricky to know how to ask about it, especially in the initial stages. But coming with the right attitude and a genuine curiosity can open the door to some deep and thoughtful conversations.

For James and Rica, timing was everything. "I had, many years ago, joined Christian Connection," says James, "I actually felt Holy Spirit, conviction that it wasn't the time. Years later, I'd felt the desire to go down the track of a Christian online dating... I accepted that God was taking me down that route, and two or three days later this gorgeous woman popped up on my feed, and I thought I'd get in touch." Rica says, "I sat in prayer and felt the Holy Spirit tell me to join Christian connection, and after some wrestling, I listened, and within a half an hour, I got a little pop up saying, James likes you, and the rest is history."

Meeting for a date can come with nerves and high expectations - adding in some creature comforts can be just what's needed! Animal date ideas can be fun, varied and cute. Full of great talking points, memorable moments and opportunities to bond over whatever of God's creatures appeal. 

First dates can feel exciting and daunting at the same time. The key is to find a way to keep your nerves at bay, to show up authentically and to be open, whilst practising healthy boundaries and being aware of the potential pitfalls. Having enjoyable and fruitful first encounters and great first dates is very achievable. Here are some simple things to remember before your next one.